The first love of children occurs at 6-7 years old. It is at this time that children try on the role of sexual nature. For the first time, boys begin to touch the girls, admire them and inferior, trying in this way to gain their friendship and sympathy. This is an important point for parents. At this moment of the first children’s feelings, the task of the parents is not to frighten off children, not to make fun, not to instill uncertainty and fear of the opposite sex, not to humiliate the child. This first experience of children’s love is pure, naive and disinterested.
Children 11-12 years old are mainly busy with various games with friends and friends of the same floor with them. At this moment, the human instinct begins to declare itself with a new, even more powerful force. Girls, from about 12 years old, begin to look flirty at boys, try to like them. The boys begin to wake up a romantic interest in girls a little later (at 13-14).
Parents should constantly remember that children learn from them to build their romantic and friendly relations (not without reason they say that children are a reflection of their parents). But still, children cannot see the open sexual manifestations of their parents, they can only guess and sometimes not quite correctly interpreted. But the current youth excess draws all aspects of sexual relations from the media, which is completely wrong and harmful to children.
If the children are healthy, then they will fall in love, strive to be together as long as possible. And it is impossible to stop or prohibit it (instinct of reproduction). Adolescents will once develop romantic relationships. Any restrictions and prohibitions from the parents, only passions will be heated to a critical level. At this moment, parents are much more important to react correctly. For example, with respect, notice: “You are a completely adult. Already a classmate invited to the cinema … “. It will be possible to tell about their acquaintance (with mom or dad), how they met, how they decided to get married, how they decided to give birth to a son or daughter and how this long -awaited child was born, who is now sitting nearby and listening to how you tell him about this. That is, a teenager needs to give the right direction – for love, for the family, for family relationships. And then he will subconsciously adhere to these principles.
But the advice of parents, they are simple and understandable.
Offer your child good love novels. More often watch films on this topic, for example, about Romeo and Juliet. Discuss read books and watched films.
Do not laugh at the teenager that, they say, still small (small) to think about love for truly. You should respect the feelings of your child.
In no case do not criticize your child’s chosen one or chosen one.
Constant control – will only lead to tension with a teenager.
You need to speak calmly, respectfully and openly about issues regarding the relationship of sexes and love.
Be sure to tell the child about the responsibility of loving people to each other, about parental duty and the duties of parents to children.
Persistently teach the child to say: “I am not ready for this and I am unpleasant”.
In no case do not let your child fall in love with his main and main work. It is necessary to accustom him to the fact that they remain unshakable – school, parents, circles and household duties.
But when you should urgently and mercilessly intervene, it is when an adult is caring for your 13-14-year-old daughter or when an adult woman is passionate about your son. This is unacceptable and dangerous.
If we constantly engage in the right direction with their children, to develop them in matters regarding the relationship of sexes, then the child will strive for such relations based on love, duty and responsibility.
