Communication of parents and child is a very important element of education. Not only how the child will be, but his whole subsequent life depends on how correctly the family comes. Calm and endurance, tact, respect and, of course, love for your baby are the main components of proper communication. If you learn to talk correctly with your child, then you will have not only close contact, but also help with the advantage of getting out of any current situation. And every day, as your most important member of the family grows up, there will be more and more.
The right conversation will help stop hysteria, cheer up, support and help understand those situations in which a child cannot independently determine his feelings and attitude. The most important and most accessible language for children of any age is the language of feelings. It is his child who reads first. Therefore, you can never be suitable for conversation in upset or, even worse, aggressive mood. The child immediately considers him and will become his reflection, thereby the situation will only worsen.
The baby should feel love from parents, attention to his problems and the ability to understand them, willingness to forgive if there is a fault and, of course, unconditional support.
Before starting the conversation, try to understand the situation yourself. You may be able to get to the bottom of the cause of negative behavior from the child. To do this, put yourself in the center of the situation in the place of the child and think about what feelings you experience at the same time. Make so that the sensed feeling is voiced. Gently and unobtrusively learn the reasons for such a reaction. Try to find ways to solve the problem with your child, to achieve the option that satisfies both sides. All this will give the baby confidence and give a sense of security.
Tell the child that other people are also able to experience various feelings and they will not always be what they are expected at certain points. Tell us that not always all his desires can be fulfilled.
A very good technique is the replacement of questions by affirmative proposals. For example, the question: “You did your homework?»You can replace it with a more pleasant one and the mood” I am sure that you are perfectly ready (a) for tomorrow’s lessons at school “.
This will create a trusting atmosphere and at the same time will arouse conscience if not everything is done.
