A while after a long relationship, the couple understand that there is no this spark between them and that the relationship must be stopped. They do not get more pleasure from the fact that together. Different problems in communication or other everyday problems make them think about separation. Psychologists offer you several simple rules, as you can reduce pain in this parting. If separation can not be avoided, then you need to part as you can part.
And the first such rule is to use your life experience. If this happens to you for the first time, and you are an initiator, you can try to tell your partner in a home environment, softly and be sure to try to support him morally. Everything will depend on how and what you say. And find out if you will maintain friendly relations, or to completely stop them. If it is difficult for you to say all this directly in the face, you can write an SMS or letter in which you will inform about your gap. First you need to think well how to say, because in this situation emotions can take up and you can say too much. You can make an appointment and then talk, but you, first of all, look at the emotions of a person. Perhaps the reaction will be unexpected for both of you, and in another version, perhaps you will not have to meet, he will be able to understand everything by your words. And if you were told “you need to part”, then you do not forget about when you were not just to say this, and let your partner explain everything calmly and bring the arguments. Try to react to everything calmly.
The second rule, be honest to the end. Do not forget that we all make mistakes and do not do good somewhere. In this case, you do not need to come up with a story and invent the reasons for the break, say everything as it is actually. It is not at all necessary to remember minor details, it will be much easier to part to maintain normal relations if there are no lies between you. The following rule, forgive. You can not always forgive resentment and rupture, but for goodness both of you you need to do this. Such sincere forgiveness will help to part without unnecessary words and resentments.
Ask for forgiveness and goodbye regardless of whether you decided to part or part with you. The fourth rule, do not forget to say thanks for everything that was between you, because you were still together and you had moments of joy. Such gratitude will help keep a positive mood. Further the rule is fifth, give the way out to your emotions. Tell us, about them to a partner, do not keep it all in yourself. Emotions help get rid of stone in your soul, and you can understand each other. Also the rule, do not keep it, let it leave. Parting can cause other emotions, and during a conversation, someone will want to leave you, without fully contracting. No need to humiliate himself in front of him and hold, after a person has cooled, perhaps he will calmly want to talk with you again.
Try to forget everything as soon as possible and it is very important if you have a desire to throw away all the things that will remind you of your relationship.
When the parting is already behind, do not let yourself go into the river twice. Such experience will not be good for you. You parted and let another person make you happy. Forget and do not remember past relationships, maybe this will not work right away, but still try. This is your right to decide, this is your life, no one can make you do the opposite. If you have already finally decided to part and know the reason for your gap, then learn to understand each other, even after you dispersed. Perhaps there will be situations where you will meet, do not try to remember your life together when you were near. Accept everything as it is and completely trust in fate.
